ADHD Couples Therapy

Why Working With an LMFT Who Specializes in ADHD Can Shift Your Entire Relationship System

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Many couples seek therapy because ADHD is creating stress, conflict, or confusion in their relationship. What they often don’t realize is that ADHD isn’t just an individual issue—it’s a relational one. And that’s why working with a therapist who understands both ADHD and the entire relationship system makes such a significant difference.

A therapist who knows ADHD but not systems theory, attachment dynamics, RLT, or how generational patterns, rejection sensitivity, and school trauma shape adult relationships may focus only on symptom management. But ADHD shows up in:

• communication misfires,

• task-sharing and household roles,

• emotional regulation,

• parenting differences,

• and how each partner responds under stress.

  
  

Couples often fall into predictable patterns—like the non-ADHD partner over-functioning, becoming the “manager,” or feeling chronically disappointed, while the ADHD partner feels criticized, discouraged, or overwhelmed. This creates an unintended power differential, which increases resentment for one partner and shame for the other.

Both hurting.

Both trying.

Neither getting what they truly need.

As a licensed marriage and family therapist with advanced ADHD certification, my role is to integrate all the moving parts:

• the brain-based components of ADHD,

• the relational dynamics between you,

• the attachment patterns you learned long before this relationship,

• and the environmental factors—like school experiences or family messages—that still influence how you show up today.

  
  

I also use a strength-based framework, because the ADHD brain has remarkable abilities that often get buried under frustration: problem-solving, creativity, resilience, hyperfocus, intuition, and out-of-the-box thinking. When we learn how to harness those strengths—while addressing the very real challenges—your relationship begins to shift in lasting ways.

Together, we identify the root causes, not just the surface conflicts, and build a collaborative plan that helps both partners feel seen, supported, and capable of change.

Want to work with someone who understands both ADHD and the complexity of relationships?

If you’re looking for a therapist who can integrate neurobiology, relational theory, trauma understanding, and practical strategies—so you can finally break out of the patterns holding you back—I’d love to support you. Schedule a consultation and let’s create a plan tailored to your relationship, your family, and your brain.

Reach out: charlotte@charlottenadler.com